(12) And so each of us shall give an account of himself - give an answer in reference to judgment - to God.(13) Then let us no more criticize and blame and pass judgment on one another, but rather decide and endeavor never to put a stumbling block or an obstacle or a hindrance in the way of a brother.” (The Amplified Bible)
Ever sat in a Celebrate Recovery meeting or 12 Step meeting and get jealous of others when their anniversary's come around and others are clapping and cheering for them. If that emotion happens it must be examined to see why you feel that way?
- Frustrated because it's them and not you?
- Disappointed?
- Frustrated because you feel their approval seems to be higher than when you were celebrated?
- Frustrated because you are stuck in the 30 day cycle where you act out every 30 days and they are on 10 years of sobriety?
There could be such a number of reasons and I won't even pretend to know them or list them all. But this "critical spirit" needs to be examined.
Are you a person of negativity, insecure with your own recovery, immature in your faith or belief that sobriety can be yours, has the Devil got a grip on your heart?
The bible is urging us to not put a stumbling block in front of another person. What if your attitude was actually able to be seen by the person who is receiving their anniversary coin? Would you want to be the person who suddenly fills them with doubt or even shame about their accomplishments?
Perhaps it's time to have a one on one with the Savior and ask him to remove these feelings from your heart. Perhaps it's time to develop such a faith in yourself and make these feelings disappear. Yes, you might need to talk this over with your accountability partner/sponsor or even a trained counselor. But know that these feelings are not healthy - but that you can overcome! Hebrews 10:25 says that we are to come together to encourage one another. There is NO peace in dwelling in the deeds of others - but there is peace with Jesus Christ.
