Wednesday, August 24, 2016

I am Second ~ Colt McCoy ~ I am Successful Because I Have Jesus Christ Living Inside Me


The Story - Colt McCoy from IamSecond.com

“For me, I’m successful because I have Jesus Christ living inside of me,” says Colt McCoy, starting quarterback for the University of Texas.
College football’s biggest stage provides Colt McCoy with a platform to share his story with others. What is your story? And how is it being told? Join or start an I am Second group to find out.




Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Perspective..Let's Move the Artwork

Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Proverbs 31:30

I recently read in a devotion book where the author often moved the art pieces around her house because she wanted a different perspective. And that got me to thinking...about perspective in our lives.

What perspective do we have in our lives? Why do we "hang" with a certain crowd? Why do we leave the "art" in our lives hanging in the same place? I think it's because we are afraid of change - or are using it to bring us a temporary goodness (like a high from an a addiction).  Most often the 'sameness" brings us comfort - even if it's not healthy. Those with an addiction know exactly what I am blogging about!  What would we want to make our lives uncomfortable?  It feels good to get high right?

Well, it's perspective! And for those who attend 12 Step Programs or Celebrate recovery meetings or who see a counselor for an addiction - you have moved the artwork!  Yeah!!  You have decided that your life needs to be viewed from a different perspective. And I applaud you!

I think in this verse the charm and beauty that is being referred to can be generally applied to anything to temporarily brings us comfort but perhaps is not the healthiest. Unless, those things that bring us comfort are because of our changes with our relationship with Jesus Christ.  Christ will give us peace and a new perspective on life - and he will often do it not only with your personal relationship with Him but he will work his ways through others...the key is that we need to move the artwork first!



Monday, August 22, 2016

Haughtiness Goes Before Destruction

Haughtiness goes before destruction; humility precedes honor. Proverbs 18:12

In the United States I believe we have a generation of kids growing up who feel entitled. We have not told this generation that they are just "average" and no better than their peers. Instead, as parents we have become so engrossed in our kids lives forcing them to be in honors classes when they don't belong there, awarding trophies to all kids, etc. We are raising a generation who thinks they are better than others - and deserve the rewards in life even though they haven't paid their dues.

But, what about teaching them failure or humility? How do we do that if we always get involved? The problem is, if we continue to parent in such a way that never allows our kids to experience disappointments, how will our kids learn to overcome adversity.

We need our kids to make their own choices - good or bad. And then we need to praise when it's deserved and encourage when it's needed!  As parents, or individuals even, do we know the difference?

It's a shame because the stats of kids who have addictions is staggering.  And as parents, we are not equipped to deal. Or are we? Perhaps we ourselves need to look at the verse. Our kids learn from us - yes? They see how we live and most often mimic what they see. So perhaps it's time for us to put on a layer of humility and allow our failures to be displayed. By exposing our failures, we allow those around us to see what it truly takes to succeed.

I'm not saying go around and announce to the entire world that you have an addiction or are in rehab or whatever. I'm saying allow the true you to come out. When you make a mistake, say it out loud. Apologize to others. Say out loud "I failed because....but looking back I didn't do....in the future I will do ...." We need to model to our kids how to overcome adversity by allowing them to fail and then allowing THEM to come up with a plan of action. Our kids need to develop critical thinking skills to be able to plan.

We don't need another generation of kids graduating crying in the workplace because their boss told them they didn't do a good job. We need a generation to step up and admit they didn't do their best but will make appropriate changes.  I know it sounds cruel - but we need our kids to fail!



Sunday, August 21, 2016

Successing to Failure

For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. James 1:3-4

We fail our children when we don't allow them to fail. Yup, you read that right! As a society, it seems that we have come to believe that nobody can be the winner, and nobody the loser. Every kid that played soccer receives a trophy - even if they didn't win the entire season.

I ask, why do we do that? What are trying to teach our kids? Yes, they need to know that they can do a great job and we are the ones to affirm that in them, but for each child to be told that they are a "winner" is doing disservice to everyone! Children need to know that in order to succeed they need to put forth the effort as life is NOT easy. Sure we don't want out children to  be disappointed, but it's our jobs as parents to comfort them and to encourage our kids to try harder.

When we fail in life (and we will!!) is when we take the time to evaluate just went wrong. Do I not have the skills needed? Did I do my best or did I do just enough? Did I set myself up for failure? Do I have what it takes? Am I putting myself in a position to fail?

Dealing with addictions is really no different. Yup, we failed! And now is the time to figure out what went wrong, accept responsibility, make changes and try again.  As adults, we don't have the luxury of having our parents there to help guide us and help with decisions -- but we have sponsors and accountability partners to help us.

So today I don't want to dwell on the failure itself, but on the "what can I do differently?" so I can succeed. I believe failure is a good thing when approached correctly. I'm not saying having an addiction is a healthy habit in life - but rather the method of which you deal with failures is something that will carry you very far in life.



Saturday, August 20, 2016

Whom Do you Owe and Apology To?

Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it's in your power to help them. Proverb 3:27

We live in a world where time just seems to whiz on by and we seem to think that we will always have another day to get "it" done. But do we really? I mean, life is such a blessing right? Then why do we take it for granted? My dad says the train seems to be going faster and faster and I believe he is right.

Here are some examples of things that we need to do in the moment but yet we just don't for many reasons.

  • Thanking someone for going out of their way to help us.
  • Telling someone how much we appreciate them.
  • Apologizing for hurting someone.
  • Giving forgiveness to someone who has hurt us.
  • Telling someone we were wrong about something.
  • Having coffee with a friend who just needs someone to listen to them.
Life is so short and there is no time to waste - we are not guaranteed to have another day granted to us.  So let's not waste the time we have been given. Action item-- make a list of those you want to thank, apologize to, those you feel need supporting, those who need help...pick one a day and do something about it. Get that list to zero.  And then when you see an opportunity come up, don't wait!  Let's try and keep our lists empty (which is a great thing). It means we are engaging with people in the here and now which is something that those dealing with addictions and recovery often struggle.  Don't feel that you are the only one who struggles with this..I too am making my list and starting today.

Friday, August 19, 2016

Musical Devotionals - Hillsong's I Surrender



"I Surrender" - Hillsong

Here I am
Down on my knees again
Surrendering all
Surrendering all

Find me here
Lord as You draw me near
Desperate for You
Desperate for You

I surrender

Drench my soul
As mercy and grace unfold
I hunger and thirst
I hunger and thirst

With arms stretched wide
I know You hear my cry
Speak to me now
Speak to me now

I surrender
I surrender
I wanna know You more
I wanna know You more
[x2]

Like a rushing wind
Jesus breathe within
Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way in me

Like a mighty storm
Stir within my soul
Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way in me

Like a rushing wind
Jesus breathe within
Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way in me

Like a mighty storm
Stir within my soul
Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way in me

Like a rushing wind
Jesus breathe within
Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way in me

Like a mighty storm
Stir within my soul
Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way in me

Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way in me

I surrender
I surrender
I wanna know You more
I wanna know You more




Thursday, August 18, 2016

Always An Upgrade

Always An Upgrade