Make them holy by your truth; teach them your word, which is truth. John 17:17God demands and teaches absolute truth. Jesus came and preached the Good News - which is the truth. He didn't mince his words and try to skirt the big issues because our lives are just too short for that. Jesus just preached the raw truth. And while many were offended by it, many were relieved and set free.
See, living a life filled with deception is actually very tiring. Those who view pornography and try to do it without getting caught live in a constant state of anxiety. Are you trying to hide a drinking problem from your spouse by disguising it as happy hour? What about a shopping addiction? Do you get home from a binge and quick hide everything in the closet and don't show your spouse the credit card bills? Your minds are working so hard to try and plan it so we don't get caught. Well, I'm here to tell you the truth. You are already BUSTED! God already knows.
So, who are you really hiding the truth from? Your spouse, your family and friends? I think the most important person you are hiding from is yourself! True healing from an addiction, or hurt or habit is going to come when you finally accept the truth. That took me a while to do. But once we accept this truth, it's really freeing. At that point there are other things we have to deal with..but the first step is accepting the truth of the situation. It's a huge step - but healing will only come when you take the first step. Infact, it's the first step in both the Celebrate Recovery program or a traditional 12 step program. Are you ready to take the first step?
And what if you have already done that? What if you are well into your journey of recovery? There are things that we can do. First, we can continue to be accountable to others so that we don't fall and act out again. Second, we can be that person for someone who has just taken the first step. We can be someone's accountability partner or sponsor and give guidance. This carries huge responsibilities with it too. Telling someone the truth can be a tricky thing. It can push others away or it can bring others to us. Sometimes it needs to be just said flat out - and other times we need to help lead the person to the truth but let them discover it on their own. Anyway you slice it, speaking truth to someone carries risks. The only advice I can offer here is to speak the truth in love. You are not responsible for the actions of others - but you are responsible to speak the truth.